Forever Family
It was pretty incredible to be in the room at the time that my grandparents work was being done. I think my Grandma & Grandpa were some of the kindest, most wonderful people to ever walk this earth. My Grandpa was never a member of the church, and my Grandma was not an active member, but they were some of the most Christlike people I've ever met in my life.
My Grandpa was born & raised in Providence, RI to Norweigan immigrants. When WWII started, he joined the army & was stationed in Ogden, UT. That's where he met my Grandma. She was from the little tiny pioneer town of Fairview in central UT, but was working at the army base in Ogden...probably to get away from said litte tiny town & into the "big city" of Ogden.
They were married on November 4, 1944. My grandma got pregnant with my Aunt Kathy and then my Grandpa was shipped off to fight in Europe. Kathy was actually born while he was still over there, I believe. After my Grandpa got home from the war, they moved to Provo, UT where my Grandpa attended BYU. Their son, Steve, was born just a little while later. And then my mom came along about 8 years (?) after that. My Grandpa worked in the business office of Pacific States Steel for most (maybe all?) of his career. My Grandma was a stay-at-home mom & housewife. They raised three awesome kids, who have all gone on to have families of their own. All of their children are active members of the LDS church, even though their parents weren't. My grandparents always allowed & even encouraged their children to be active in the church, if that was what they wanted to do. In fact, while my Uncle Steve was on a mission in Australia, my Grandpa often talked with pride about how he had a son serving a mission for the LDS church.
I was the 3rd of their 7 grandchildren. Going to Grandma & Grandpa's house was always a treat. When you were around them, they always treated you like you were the best thing since sliced bread. They made you feel like they loved you more than anyone else in the world.
Grandma would always bake cookies with you, or put your hair in curlers, or take you for a "treasure hunt" (which was really just a walk to look for sticks, rocks & pine cones). Grandpa would squeeze you fresh orange juice, read you stories from his book of Fairy Tales that he had from his childhood (a book that I still have & treasure to this day), take you to the grocery store to buy grapefruits (a favorite of mine that he introduced me to at a young age) and a prize from the quarter machine, & sing you tunes like, "I love you, a bushel and a peck, a bushel and a peck and a hug around the neck" and "home again, home again, jiggity jog." Both little tunes that I now sing to my kiddos from time-to-time.
Sleeping over at Grandma & Grandpa's was also something to look forward too. We would always start our sleep over with a big swimming party in their condo pool. Then, Grandpa would pick up burgers, fries & shakes from either Ripples or Stan's & bring it home to their house for us all to devour. Later that night, we got to sleep in the huge king-size bed in the basement (I remember squeezing 5 little cousins in there at times) & then wake up to the smell of coffee brewing in the morning. Still to this day, the smell of coffee brings back happy memories of waking up at Grandma & Grandpa's house. I love it!
Every Sunday night, the family would gather at Grandma & Grandpa's house for Sunday dinner. We would eat, talk & play with our grandparents, aunts, uncles & cousins. This is a tradition that my mom has continued. Our little family gets together each Sunday night at one of our homes for dinner, dessert & some good ol' family time.
Grandma & Grandpa would also take us on little outings from time-to-time too. They would randomly show up to take us miniature golfing at Trafalga, or to ride the Heber Creeper (now called Heber Valley Railroad) up Provo Canyon. They were always doing fun little things with just us grandkids. We never doubted how much they loved us.
Later in their lives, my Grandparents both struggled with quite a few health complications. Just a few months after retirement, my Grandpa suffered a heart attack & then a stroke, which left him paralyzed on the right side of his body & made it very hard for him to communicate for the rest of his life. Just a few years after that, my grandma suffered several strokes from a brain surgery that went horribly wrong and was left in a coma for the next seven month before she passed away.
My Grandpa lived for an additional 12 1/2 years after my Grandma died. I know that was such a hard time for him. He was severely disabled & now he was living alone. My mom went to his house almost everyday to make him meals, clean his house, do his laundry, take him to doctors appointments, and go grocery shopping for him. I know it was hard on both of them through that time, but they also developed a very strong bond with each other through it as well. My Grandpa finally passed away in March 2005 after years of struggles.
I have often wondered why they had to go through so many health trials in their lives, but a few weeks ago, I heard some BYU devotional on the radio while I was driving to work. I can't even remember which general authority was speaking, but they were talking about someone who had to go through quite a few trials before their death & a relative of theirs asking, "What was the purpose of all the suffering they had to go through?" The answer the general authority gave was simply, "So you could see the greatness of their soul. You knew they were great before, but this trial allowed you to see the depth of that greatness that you wouldn't have been able to see without this trial in their lives." That struck a cord with me. I knew my grandparents were wonderful people, but the horrible trails they went through showed me the depth of their strength, perseverance & patience. It was amazing to watch them go through these things with such poise, grace & dignity. It showed me that, it doesn't matter how much hell you are going through in life, you can still do it with a smile on your face, a kind word from your mouth, and an attitude of gratefulness in your heart. They were, and still are, two of my greatest heroes, and I hope someday to be like them.
So, it was really neat to be able to be there as their temple work was being completed. Will they accept it? I don't know. But I had a funny little experience while we were there that made me feel as if they may have been there with us. I don't know if it meant anything or not, because I was the only one of our group to notice it...but it stuck out to me for some reason. For a little background, my Aunt Kathy's first name is Thora, but she's always gone by her middle name which is Kathleen. My Mom's name is Patricia, but almost everyone calls her Patti. Her parents, however, almost always called her Pat. In fact, I don't know if I ever heard them call her anything other than Pat. Okay, there's your background...now onto the story. As the sealer was telling each of them where to kneel at the alter as they were being sealed to their parents, he was calling each of them by their full first names--Thora, Stephen & Patricia--each time. However, at one point, he said, "Kathleen (not Thora, mind you)...you kneel here. Stephen...you here. And Pat...uhhhh Patricia...here." Now, again, no one else noticed this except me, so maybe it was just totally insignificant. But, to me, it almost felt like possibly my grandparents were there & that this little switch in names was their way of letting us know that. Who knows. But, I hope they were there. And I hope they were happy we were doing this work. And I hope they accepted it. It was a wonderful experience for all of us to be a part of. Thank you Grandma & Grandpa for everything you did for me in my life. Thank you for your love & service. Thank you for showing me what it means to be Christlike through your everyday words & deeds. I love you!!! --Lindsay























