February One-on-One Dates
We're still doing good on our resolution to take our kids on one-on-one dates each month. We aren't, however, doing very good at taking pictures on these dates. In fact, in the case of Connor's date, there are no pictures at all. But, that's just fine with me because Connor's date isn't exactly a night I want to remember. Let me explain...
Connor wanted to go bowling for his date. When we got to the bowling alley, there was a 30+ minute wait for the bumper bowling lanes, but there was no wait for the regular lanes. I asked Connor if he wanted to wait the half hour until we could get on one of the bumper lanes. He told me that he didn't want to & that he didn't need bumpers because he was "so awesome" at bowling. I gave him a suspicious look & asked if he was sure. He told me that he was definitely sure & that we should just get a regular lane. I was hesitant, and I think the kid behind the counter could sense my hesitation because he said, "If he has a hard time with it, we have bowling ramps that he can use." With that, I agreed to a regular lane, we got our bowling shoes & balls, and we were off.
When it was Connor's first turn, I asked him if he wanted to use the ramp. "No way," he said. "I don't need it." Three seconds later the ball was in the gutter. No worries, it was just a fluke. A minute later, his ball went into the gutter again. He got frustrated & asked for the ramp for his next turn. I tried to help him position the ramp so that his ball would go straight, but he insisted he could do it himself & told me to stop treating him like a baby. He positioned the ramp so it wasn't quite straight. It didn't go in the gutter, but it only hit 2 pins down. I tried to tell him that he needed to straighten his ramp out a little more, but he wouldn't listen to me. He got a gutter ball the next time. After that, he decided that he didn't want to use the ramp anymore. Well, can you guess what happened? Gutter ball...gutter ball...gutter ball...gutter ball. I suggested that he try rolling it "granny style" through his legs. He tried that & got 3 pins down, but he said he felt stupid doing it, so he went back to bowling the regular way. Gutter ball...gutter ball...gutter ball...gutter ball...gutter ball. As the game went on, he got more & more frustrated & started taking his frustrations out on me. This was all MY fault because we didn't wait for a bumper lane. Wait?!? I don't remember being the one to make that decision?!? He went on & on about how he *hated* me (yes, HATE) & how I was the worst mom ever & how he hated himself & how he hated bowling. I tried to calm him down & talk to him, but nothing worked. I wanted to yell & scream at him to get a hold of himself and snap out of this horrible mood, but with a bowling alley full of people, I couldn't really do that. Finally we left. As we were leaving, the people in the lane next to us grabbed my arm to tell me that they "love to watch me on TV." Great! Wonderful! Awesome! You know they went home & told all their friends that "the weather girl's son was out of freakin' control!" Sigh...
When we got out to the car, Connor got a mouthful. Oh boy, did he ever get a mouthful! I lectured him on respect, dignity, not being a sore loser, and a multitude of other things. I then promptly grounded him to his room for the next day. This is the ultimate punishment for Connor. When I ground my kids to their rooms, that means they are laying on their beds in their rooms all day long, except for school, meals, and to go to the bathroom. The rest of the time, they lay on their beds & just read. It's basically jail, except with a comfy bed & no TV. Connor *hates* to be grounded. So, of course, this punishment led into another tantrum about how mean I was & how he wanted a different mom. I wiped away tears as we drove home. These dates were supposed to be fun & bring us closer together with our kids. This date, however, had done just the opposite.
When we got home, I told Mike what happened & then we all had a talk about the evening, and about how he would never go on these dates again if he ever acted like that again. After that, Connor went to bed, but about 30 minutes later a tear-stained faced Connor walked down the stairs with a note in his hands. He said, "I'm sorry Mom. Here's a note for you." I opened the note. Here's what it said: "Mom, I love you because you are the best mom and you give the best hugs. Mom, I love you." It was simple, but sweet. Connor then spent the next day in his room, without complaint....well, except I could hear him talking to himself in his room saying over and over again, "I'm bored. I'm so very bored." It made me chuckle a little bit. So, that was my date with Connor. It wasn't great. In fact, it wasn't even good. It was bad...really, really bad. But, resolutions (and relationships with your children) never go off without a few hiccups from time-to-time, right? My hope is that Connor learned a few things that night. Our relationship has been much better overall since that date. He has seemed to be trying to be kinder & think twice before he says things. And, he told me the other day that he can't wait for our next date so that he can prove to me that he can do better.
Aiden's date with Mike went much better than my date with Connor. Aiden wanted to go play Laser Tag. Mike didn't take any pictures of Laser Tag because he said it was too dark & he was obviously too busy having fun to take pictures. Oh well. He did take a picture of Aiden on this little Frog Hopper ride they went on after they were done with Laser Tag...
After that, they climbed the rock wall & Aiden did one of the hardest walls there & actually made it all the way to the top. They had a blast together from what I hear.
Cohen & I went Miniature Golfing for our date. I didn't get any pictures of us golfing, but I did get a picture of this cutie while we were waiting in line. The fun center was really busy the night we went & he was so patient while we were in line...






